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How To Survive The Harmattan

Tis the season to be jolly, fa, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, Who else is exited for Christmas. I know I am. Over here, that means the harmattan season is here to stay. Harmattan is that time of the year when everywhere gets really dusty and dry and chilly. The nights and morning are usually cold. This is what we love most about it. The afternoon are dry and sunny and the evening are usually cool and dusty. I’m not complaining but the harmattan, it leaves your skin dry and rough. Don’t forget white and sometimes cracks start appearing in your skin but we will survive.

Here are simple everyday ways to get by during the harmattan

1. Body oil – a must: Applying body oil to your skin this season is a must to combat against the dryness of the hamattan. Baby oil, shea butter, Vaseline is a yes this period.

2. Lip Gloss; a necessity: Never make the mistake of leaving, your lip gloss/ lip balm / chap stick home. It should always be in your purse. To keep your lips moisturise, if not it will end up dry and cracked and start looking like one of a fever patient. Don’t let fifty shades deceive you, licking your lips every five second is not sexy.

3. Socks? Yes, Yes: Socks are a must this season to prevent your feet from being all white and dry when you go out.

4.  Water: Like I always say you don’t have to be thirsty before drinking water. By that time you’re already dehydrated. Make sure to always take a can of water every where you this dry season. That’s what I do.

5. Sweatshirts: This period, the morning is undeniably cold but if you are a lazybum like me, you can just cuddle in bed all morning but if you have places to go, then sweatshirts / jackets are a yes to keep yourself warm. Make sure its something you can conveniently pull, if the weather becomes hot later.

6. Skip the white powders this period, you don’t need it.

7. Open Fires? NO!: Unfortunately this period I have had to watch two cars on different occasions get burnt to ash. What starts as a little fire ignites really quickly because of how dry and. windy the season is. I’m thankful no life was loss but other stories I’ve been hearing hasn’t been so good.
People also have the habit of burning dirts outside at night which is totally unadvisable. So lets stay safe this season.

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What’s your favourite thing about Christmas 🎅? About the holiday? Don’t overthink it. Please tell me in the comments. Pretty please with cherry on top. I don’t know what’s wrong with my WordPress app, I’ve been trying to upload a picture all day but nothing is working. What to do?
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Posted in Everything We See, Motivational Corner

Levels Of Intelligence (more than maths and english)

Hey guys,
Long time, no see right? For the past few weeks, I’ve been in this phase where its like I’ve lost all enthusiasm and I can’t get myself to do anything and at the same time I feel very overwhelmed. I miss blogging and I’m thankful to all my followers for sticking with me.

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Last week in Church, I had the opportunity of learning something new and the other day, I was watching a Korean series (School 2017) where the main character Eun Ho and some other students are discriminated against by the teachers and school authority because they are at the bottom of the class in terms of grade. The thing is, Eun Ho might not be so good academically but she’s very talented at drawing. Her drawings are real. She plans to enter College by winning a drawing/webtoon competition. The unfortunate thing is that her teachers do not realise nor appreciate it.

Most times, students’ intelligence are judged by how good they are academically. In Nigeria and in many countries of the world, you have to get at least a C in mathematics and English or your O’level result is null and void. Lately, I’ve learnt there so much more to intelligence than that.

According to the American developmental psychologist Howard Gardener, there are nine levels of intelligence

1. Linguistic Intelligence: This is the ability or the talent to put words together.
Some people has that ability to speak eloquently, even in the midst of people.

2. Mathematical / Logistical Intelligence: Everyone has or had that classmate who seem to know all the answers to every math equation.That’s the perfect example of someone with this sort of intelligence.

3. Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence: This is the ability to maneuver your body to music. E.g. Dancing. It’s also the capacity to stay graceful and coordinated when using a range of physical skills and manipulating objects.  E.g surgeons, athletes.

4. Inter-personal intelligence: This has to do with being able to understand another person’s feelings and interact effectively with others.

Leadership comes easy to people with this type of intelligence because understanding people’s motive and being able to effectively communicate is what makes a good leader.

5. Musical Intelligence: To be able to put words together. It’s more than singing, it’s being able to create music. Write songs, play instruments.

6. Naturalistic Intelligence: Also known as nature smart. This refers to human beings sensitivity to the natural world. It’s also seen in the way consumers discriminate between products. This becomes a vital skill for people who end up being chefs and botanist.

7. Spatial Intelligence: This has to with being able to visualise. Like our dear Eun Ho, you can’t draw without visualising. They consider things in third dimension and are highly creative. Also, fashion designing, graphic design, architects, sculptors, painters.

8. Intra-personal Intelligence: This has to do with being able to understand yourself, your feeling, what you want. You ask some students about their future ambition, and it’s like they have it all figured out while some will say ‘They don’t know’. That’s the difference between some one who has intra-personal intelligence and someone who doesn’t.

9. Existential Intelligence: To be able to understand and explain to a large extent why we are here on earth, the meaning of life, why we die.

Understanding these levels of intelligence, helps you discover what your talents are.

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Posted in Book blogger

T5W: Authors I would love to write like

It’s been a while I did a Top5Wednesday and I missed it. Sometimes I get pretty lazy and just let it slide. But not today. For today, top 5 Wednesday, here are five authors I would love to write like.

1. Sarah J Mass ( Throne of Glass series): When I first read I fell in love with how she uses words and wrote such a bad ass story. I would love to write like her.

2 Chiamanda Ngozi Adichie ( Purple Hibiscus):

image credits: Amazon.com

My favourite African author, her writing is amazing. Sometimes I find it hard to read African literature and I’m African but with her books it just comes easy. Her story captures and provokes her readers and I would love to write like that.

3. Anna Todd (The After series): Growing up I thought a good novel had to be filled with big words. Some reads were pretty slow as I had to be checking every word in the dictionary so as to understand the storyline. It’s great for your vocabulary and all but honestly sometimes it can get pretty annoying.
She first wrote After on wattpad. She uses simple words, yes but it was a beautiful story and I loved it. I learnt simplicity can be beautiful.

4. Sophie Kinsella (The Shopaholic series): I love Sophie Kinsella writing. They are so full of humour and can make you laugh your heart out. She writes on your typical every day life and it’s so interesting and relatable.

5. Leigh Bardugo (Six of Crows & Shadow and Bone): If you’ve read the six of crows then you’ll know how much of a writer Leigh is. She writes beautiful and amazing stories and I admire her for that .

T5W is a meme on Good reads created by Samantha

What do you think of these authors? Have you read any of these book here? Do you plan to? What do you think? Tell me what you think  about anything and everything. 

Posted in Book blogger, Uncategorized

Anything But Books Tag

Hey guys,
I have been nominated to do this tag by my newest book friend, Taiwo @

Stuffed shelves . Do check out her blog, she’s great at what she does.

Let’s get to it.

Name A Cartoon that you love

Hmmm, where do I start?

I love Ben10, Avatar:Legend of Aang, the Bakugan series, Justice League, Young Justice, Barbie series mostly because of the songs.

What’s your favourite song right now?

Crossover by Travis Greene. Currently loving that.

What could you do for hours that isn’t reading?

Sleeping

What is something you love to do that your followers would be surprised out?

I don’t know. It’s a pretty tricky questions. I love a good gist with friends.

What is your favourite unnecessarily specific thing to learn about?

I love to learn the way people live in other countries.

What is something usual you know how to do?

I can make hand bracelets with baby rubber bands.

Name something you have made in the last year.

I’ve written a book. It’s not published yet or anything like that. More like, tucked in my wardrobe till I find the right opportunity.

What is your most recent personal project?

My blog. I’m working on it. Trying to make it better and stuffs.

Tell us something that you think of often

Being interviewed. Because I would be pretty popular and everyone would be curious about what I’m up to and my next move.

Tell us something that is your favourite but make it oddly specific

The Shopaholic series. That’s oddly specific, right?

So I tag,

Bellibone

Shards of barns

the orangutan librarian

Blogger girl

Red Confidential

[Please don’t feel obligated to do this tag if you already have or simply don’t want to ]

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Thanks to everyone who viewed my first article on the Pulse Bloggers Community. There’s a new one up.

What’s scares you the most when you decide to put yourself out there? What’s the best part of being yourself.

READ http://www.pulse.ng/communities/bloggers/pulse-blogger-being-yourself-is-as-scary-as-it-is-fulfilling-id7623142.html

Posted in Nessa's P.O.V, Uncategorized

Questions You Never Thought To Ask Tag

Hey guys, happy new week. It seems I’m behind on all my tags. I’ve been quite busy with admission and clearance wahala. Oh yes, it seems I’m now an undergrad. Proud student of the University of Benin over here.

Now let’s get to it.

I’ve been tagged by

Claire Yang. Thank you very much. Check out her blog, she writes great poetry.

Now let’s get to it.

Rules:

They are pretty simple.
Answer the following questions.
Tag other bloggers
And they answer the same questions

But from me to you, if you want to interchange the some of the questions with your own when you ask other bloggers, you can. But don’t reduce.

Every tag is supposed to have an official image. I don’t know why this doesn’t.

Questions:

1. What game consoles have you had?

A few. I’ve had an xbox. Then Nintendo ‘Just Dance’.

2. If you could tame any animal into being your pet, what would you pick?

Still thinking 😔

3. Are you a sexual person?

Now, that is too personal of a question, in my opinion.

4. Foods you despise?

I do not like bananas. It’s not a food though, I know. it’s a fruit.

5. Coolest place you’ve ever visited?

I don’t know.  I won’t give the ‘coolest’ title to the places I’ve visited. Some were pretty cool though but coolest is reserved for some where better

6. Why did you first start blogging/YouTube?

I started blogging  mostly because I felt like. I had no idea what I was getting into.

7. Favorite item from closet?

My jeans. I love my jeans.
 
8. Do you prefer a backpack/big bag/small bag/just wallet?

I prefer a small bag. Most things I carry around are my phone, charger, cash, a book and pen. So it must be able to contain those stuffs.

9. Favorite video/computer/phone game?

Do I have a favourite? Hmmm, don’t think so.

10. One celebrity you would sleep with?

Are you serious? None really.

11. Favorite traits for a partner/friend?

Honesty and forgiveness. The last thing I need is a friend who keeps grudges.

12. Your personality?

How do I put it in words? I’m pretty lay back but I set standards for myself and the kind of people I surround myself with. I always put God first. When I want to do something, first question I ask myself, ‘Would God be happy with what I’m about to do?’

13. When’s the last time you took a risk?

My dress to church. A fashion risk.

14. Fashion trend you would never do?

They are a few but I don’t know how to describe them.

15. One physical trait about you that only you notice?

I doubt I have such like that.

16. One emotional trait about you that only you notice?

I don’t care as much as people think I do.

17. 3 weird things about you off the top of your head?

Okay, these things might not be weird but I’m going with popular opinion here.

I tend to laugh at things people don’t think are funny.

I think my laugh is a bit weird.

Sometimes I dance, even when no music is playing. But trust me when I say, I was making my own music in my head.

18. Favorite cheese?

Cheese balls?

19. 3 things you use everyday that you need?

My phone.
My charger.
My Jesus Christ. I don’t think I can survive any day without Him by my side and in my life.

20. Favorite youtubers/actresses/media people?

There is one. She hosted Miss Maliaki, Ghana a few weeks ago. I can’t remember her know. Can you imagine but I’m currently loving her. She also host shows on the Ghana GH1 channel.

21. One thing that makes you happy everyday?

Food.

22. One question you wish you could get an answer to?

One? I have plenty concerning the future.

23. Something about your childhood that affects you today?

My upbringing?

24. What life is all about for you?

Life isn’t just about living but living it well.

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So I’m tagging anyone and everyone who wants to or feel like doing this tag. Yes, I’m talking to you. Just make sure to link it back to me so I can read your answers.

Remember, don’t overthink it. Just have fun.

Wanna drop your thoughts? You’re totally free.

Posted in Style it Out

Misguided Ideas on Weight Loss

A lot of people are talking about their weight and doing anything to lose it. Recently I have discovered that they are a lot of misconceptions and ideas concerning this weight losing of a thing and dieting.

Let me tell a bit of a story

So a family friend, she’s also a neighbour…

She’s said she wanted to lose weight because she thinks she is getting too fat and she does not want her husband to come and see that she has gained weight because that wasn’t how he left her. Her husband stays abroad.

She embarks on a weight losing journey but it isn’t as effective as it should be.

Why?

Because she have some misguided ideas on weight losing;

Which are;

1. I want to lose weight, so my husband won’t look elsewhere.

2. To lose weight, I must stop eating.

3. I’m not going to eat in the morning before I go to work.

So my friend will miss breakfast and come to work. When she arrives, after sweeping and cleaning the office, and working on her computer, later in the morning lets say 11, she’s tired and her stomach is empty, so she buys one bottle of Miranda or Fanta ( a soft drink that is basically water and sugar) with a pack of biscuits. When she decides to eat at noon, she buys street food. She gets home late and when she does she probably eats a little or not at all.

What’s she doing wrong?

A lot of things.

Now lets correct those misguided ideas

Never miss breakfast:

Studies show making breakfast a daily habit can help you lose weight – and keep it off.

By Jeanie Lerche Davis

Some people cut breakfast thinking they are cutting calories but at lunch you are starved and you start nibbling for anything you see. Making you opt for junk food.

Your body needs metabolism to burn fat. Eating early (breakfast) helps your body to produce enzymes to create metabolism to burn fat through out the day.

Don’t starve yourself:

Starving yourself is unhealthy. The last thing you need is you fainting all in the name of weight loss, then your neighbours will start asking you, “who send you?” Besides it won’t work anyway.

Not eating will make you crave more.

I know word is out there that starving yourself isn’t the best way to lose weight but people still do it out of desperation. If you are losing weight because you are insecure about your relationship or to fit in a particular crowd, then that’s low self esteem talking. Lose weight for the right reasons.
 Instead of eating three large meal, switch to five smaller meal. An healthy breakfast, a mid morning snack; a light lunch, a mid afternoon, then dinner. And when I say snack, I mean something healthy.

Eat slowly. It takes a while for your stomach to know its full. When you rush and eat, you end up over feeding yourself.

Have you noticed that sometimes when you eat and then its like you’re not full. So you go to the kitchen to make another meal but when the meal its ready, it seems like you lost your appetite. You might eat a little but you find out you’re not as hungry as you were when you decided to make the meal.

Eat slow and you will get filled up on time.

Avoid Street/junk/fast food: Of course you shouldn’t always deprive yourself when you’re on a weight loss journey. You can treat yourself once in a while. Opt for a healthier option. But don’t make eating Street/junk/fast food an habit because its calorie filled. Home cooked meal are the best. There’s nothing wrong with packing your lunch to work.

 

Staying Fit should be an every day thing.

Once upon a time, my mum sold gymning equipments and her main customers were older men and women who were over weight. It’s funny how some people eat anyhow just because they have this slimy perfect figure and if you ask them if they gym, they’ll tell you, “What for? Am I fat?” That’s a common misconception. Staying fit; exercising and eating right should be a part of everyday lifestyle not necessarily to lose weight but to keep healthy.

One easy way to exercise is by walking. Avoid the shortcuts. Don’t take a taxi everywhere.

I’ll leave you with this;
Love Yourself, Love your Body. No matter what size, shape, figure you are, you are wonderfully and beautifully made. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or insecure about it. God loves you.

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So a few weeks back, I sent a mail to Pulse Nigeria to be part of the Pulse Blogger team. I got a mail back that I’ve been accepted as a three months probatory contributor. My first article was published on Saturday and I will love if you check it out and if you can leave a comment.

http://www.pulse.ng/communities/bloggers/pulse-blogger-faceless-by-amma-darko-a-book-review-id7585123.html

Thank you.

For everyone who followed, likes, comments, you guys are stars. I really appreciate.

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So tell me what you think of today’s post. What other misguided ideas do you think people have on weight losing? Share your thoughts on anything and everything.

For more fitness and weight loss tips, check out these articles / posts

Losing belly fat- 15 effective ways

Lose the belly fat

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BOOK REVIEW: Lola And The Boy Next Door

BOOK TITLE: LOLA AND THE BOY NEXT DOOR

AUTHOR: STEPHANIE PERKINS

PUBLISHED: 2011

GENRE: FICTION

STANDALONE – SECOND BOOK IN THE SERIES



Budding designer Lola Nolan doesn’t believe in fashion…she believes in costume. The more sparkly, more fun, more wild – the better. And life is pretty close to perfect in Lola’s world, especially with her hot rocker boyfriend. That is, until the dreaded Bell twins, Calliope and Cricket, return to the neighbourhood and unearth a past of hurt and anguish that Lola thought was long buried.
   So when talented inventor Cricket steps out from his twin sister’s shadow and back into Lola’s life, she must finally face up to a lifetime of feelings for the boy next door.

“I don’t believe in fashion. I believe in costume. Life is too short to be the same person everyday.”

Lola is a seventeen year old girl with a crazy personality. She’s one character that will stick in my mind. Mostly because of her style sense. I love that she is confident and brave enough to be herself.

At the beginning of the book, Lola is dating an older guy who is a rock singer, Max. Lola has had a crush on Cricket for a long time but after one humiliating and misunderstood experience and his sudden move, she chose to resent him. Tucked away her feelings in a box and starts dating a twenty two year old Max who is a lead singer in his rock band.

Cricket comes back and suddenly she feels confused and tangled up in a web. She loves Max but she also have feelings for Cricket.

Cricket... Tall, blue eyes, hair sticking in all directions and related to Graham Bell. He’s somewhat of a science geek, honest and a really nice guy.

He loves Lola and appreciates her for who she is. He’s also respectful to Lola and everyone around him, and that’s a good personality

Max…He’s your typical bad boy, rocker dude, tattooed skin. Some people would claim that his lyrics are ‘angry’. He cared about Lola but he didn’t respect her friends claiming they were too young and immature for him to hang out with.

In the novel, the age gap between Lola and Max is frowned upon. One of the reasons is because Lola is not yet eighteen and Max isn’t exactly the responsible type.

Stephanie Perkins did a good job with this one though there were some bits I didn’t quite like. I should add that she makes a horrible break up scene. It left me quite speechless but she made up for it I guess with how cute the story turned out to be.

With the way the society is growing more, a lot of authors tries to make their books diverse to reach across different readers and I think she did a good job with it.

This novel explores the theme of first love, friendship, protective parent/guardian, indecisiveness, being who you are and how important it is not to make assumptions on something you think happened or someone.

Read the review of the first book in this series

/Anna and the French kiss