Dear Diary,

I remember the first time I decided to keep a diary. I was nine or ten year old, I had just watched the Barbie Diaries; Barbie with a diary that she thought was magical because everything she wrote in it came true. So I told my elder sister, she was a year and half older than me. So we cut off papers and sew them together. She painted the cover for me and drew lovely stickers on it. It was great but I could never maintained it.

I didn’t write what back then I thought was a secret because I thought why try so hard to keep something to myself only to write it down and someone comes across it and reads it. So I stop keeping it.

Two years past, I try the diary thing again, I would write out random things like what I did, what I ate, how school treated me, but I still didn’t write what back then I thought were secrets in it like who I crushed on because I thought what if one of my sisters, or mum or dad come across it. I try to write random things on it everyday but some days, it slips my mind and I forget. I thought there were important things I should be doing rather than sitting here writing some stories that might come not to mean anything later. So I stopped.

Last year, I started again. Why? I thought this time I’d write out what I felt about what happens. I discovered then that the pen couldn’t really capture exactly what I felt and sometimes when I sit down to write, I find out I can’t remember how I felt.

The thing is, life is so vast and I think  its a human nature to try to capture and keep every moment. Except that, we can’t. As human grow older, memories fade and we find ourselves grasping blurry images. But it doesn’t stops us for trying. Though there are those days or moments we can’t ever forget, forever imprinted in our minds.

So am I against keeping diaries? No, no, of course not. I will probably start writing one again. When? I have no idea.  I keep the former ones and when I read then, I’m hit with flashbacks of stuffs that happened back then and I smile.

In the words of Ed Sheeran,
“We keep this love in a photograph
We make these memories for ourselves
Where our eyes are never close
Hearts are never broken
And time is forever frozen still.”

So no matter how some of us might criticize social networks; Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, they have given us a place where we can store and share these memories.

It doesn’t matter how you do, (Writings, Pictures), it’s all, a Dear Diary.

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Quote of the day

“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means that you have decided to look beyond your problems”

Look beyond your problems, Let God take control, Be happy.

With love,

Nessa. 💕

The Music Tag

Ever heard the saying “music is life”, am sure we all have. I think one of the things everyone in the world has in common is the love of music, the only thing that varies is the type of music we prefer to listen. Dont will all just love sitting in a couch and listening to that crazy jam that makes us tap our feet and shake our heads. So I am participating in the music tag hosted by
katrin @ – my cup of English tea

The Questions

  • What sort of music do you like to listen to?

I listen to a lot of music, most times I choose them by the lyrics. If I like the story in the words. However, I would say pop, gospel, a bit of rock.

  • Do you play an instrument? What is your favorite instrument?

I don’t for now but I would really love to learn to play the piano \ keyboard.

  • What is your favorite quote about music?

 Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent” – Victor Hugo.

  • Who is your favorite singer/musician?

I really can pick one and most times  it isn’ t about the musicians to me but the songs they sing, so I will say I love  a lot of Travis Greene and Hezekiah Walker songs, Taylor Swift, Ed Sheeran, the chainmokers (am crazy about their music), Little Mix, Sia, a bit of Katy Perry.

  • Who is your favorite songwriter/composer?

I don’t really have one. I don’t listen to classical music

  • What is one musician or composer you secretly like but won’t admit it?
  • Hmmm, am really open about my music preferences.

    • If you had to get stuck on a desert island with only three works of music, what would they be?

    Probably a lot of Travis Greene and Sia

    • What kind of you music do you dislike?                                                Hip hop and rap songs that talk about nothing much but sex, drugs and sex. But I am cool with rap on a normal ground.

    So that’s its, your turn guys, I nominate everyone who listen to a song in the last two days (probably everyone).

    Tag me and link back to this post, display the music tag image, and nominate as many people as you’d like. If you want you can also add more questions.

    Here are a recap of the questions and I added two of mine.

    • What sort of music do you like to listen to?
    • Do you play an instrument? What is your favorite instrument?
    • What is your favorite quote about music?
    • Who is your favorite singer/musician?
    • Who is your favorite songwriter/composer?
    • What is one musician or composer you secretly like but won’t admit?
    • If you had to get stuck on a desert island with only three works of music, what would they be?
    • What kind of you music do you dislike?
    • How do you choose your playlist?
    • If you were having a bad day, what music\ musician would you like to listen to.

    Have fun…

    She Multiplies…

    A woman is an incubator
    God designed the female to be an incubator
    Her whole body is incubation
    An incubator is something that gives life to everything.
    Whatever you give an incubator
    It gives it life then gives it back to you
    Whatever you give an incubator
    It multiples
    Then it gives back to you
    That’s why women must be careful what they listen to
    Who they listen to
    And what they hear
    Because women incubates everything
    If you give a woman a word
    She gives you a sentence back
    If you give her a sentence
    She gives you a paragraph
    If you give her a paragraph
    You are going to get a book
    If you give a woman one sperm
    She’s going to give it life
    Multiply it
    And give you a baby
    You give her a house
    She gives you a home
    Makes it beautiful
    Mutiplies it
    She makes you a beautiful home
    You give her groceries
    She gives you a meal
    You give her frustration
    She multiplies it
    And gives you hell
    A female is an incubator
    That means she receives information
    She expounds it
    And she gives it back to you
    A female never keeps anything
    Incubators do not keep anything
    They may hold it for a while
    But you will eventually get it back
    And it would never come back the way you gave it
    It comes back multiplied
    A woman would be under pressure for twenty years and then one day, all of a sudden, she goes crazy on you
    She curses you and throw stuffs at you
    She incubates everything
    So if you give a woman gossip
    You know when the bible talks about gossip
    It usually refers to the female
    Why is it that a woman destroys with her mouth?
    Because a woman keeps multiplying stuffs
    So women if you want to be a good wife
    Make sure you receive the right stuff
    Because whatever you receive
    You are going to multiply it
    And you are going to give it to your husband
    So if you are on the phone talking all day to a woman who’s divorced and you are not
    If you are talking all day to women whose marriages ain’t working all the time
    And they are talking to you
    They are going to get into your womb
    And then your husband comes back
    And you start speaking negative things
    And suspicious things to your husband
    When in fact you’ve been receiving that junk from your friend on the phone.
    No wonder why, Peter said, women be like Sarah, live a quiet life, don’t be noisy, don’t be gossips
    You’re an incubator
    You produce what you listen to.”

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    This words were sent to me by a friend through a Digital Grace…Be inspired video. I liked it a lot, so I shared it. To me, this words are true and i see a lot of it happing around me.

    Liebster Award 2017

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    Hey guys, hope you are having a smashing week? Mine is going a bit stressful. I have been nominated for yet another blogger award and I’m pretty excited about it. The Liebster Blogger Award is a wonderful way to get to know other new bloggers. Thanks a lot to

    alikerofmanythings for nominating me. Her blog is awesome. You should really check it out.

    Here Are The Rules:

    Appreciate the person who nominated you.

    Answer the 11 questions that your nominator has asked you.

    Nominate 11 other bloggers (with under 200 followers).

    Ask your nominees 11 questions.

    Let them know that you have nominated them.

    1. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

    I would love to be able to read minds, know what exactly people are thinking.

    2. What is your Hogwarts house?

    Haven’t watch the Harry Potter series, so I can’t say.

    3. What do you do when you are feeling stressed?

    Mostly sleep.

    4. Who would you love to see perform live?

    Taylor Swift

    5. You get to have dinner with three famous people, dead or alive, who would it be?

    Hmmm…I ll have to pick
    Kendall Jenner
    Gigi Hardid
    Chiamanda Ngozi Adichie (she’s my favourite African writer)

    6. Do you have any pets?

    Not at all

    7. Favourite musician?

    That’s a really hard one cause I have lot of favourites, so I’m not picking.

    8. If you could have one talent/skill, what would it be?

    Singing. I’m good at it but I would want to have like that mind blowing singing talent, I’m talking about Celine Dion blow-your-mind

    9. Dream profession?

    I would love to travel around the world, vist amazingly cool places, interview important personalities and get paid for it.

    10. Would you mind sharing a writing tip?

    If you want to write, I advise you steer away from distractions (things, persons, places), if not you’ll end up getting distracted and not writing at all.

    11. Why do you blog?

    First of all, its creative. I plan to be a published writer soon enough so this blog helps me to practise, put me out there and see people’s opinions on little of my write up. WordPress is the only social media am active on, because I find chatting a bit stressful and I really don’t like wasting my time scrolling through people’s photoshop pics.

    So here are my questions…

    1. What do you do with most of your time when not blogging?

    2. Have you ever wished to change lives with someone you know? And I don’t mean a celebrity or a fictional character.

    3. If yes, why? If no, why not?

    4. If you could have dinner with three famous people, dead or alive, who would they be?

    5. Dream profession?

    6. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

    7. What would you never be caught dead doing?

    8. How often do you cry?

    9. Who would you love to see perform live?

    10. Where are you from? (country)

    11. Would you rather work at your dream job and never be appreciated or do a job you don’t like but be appreciated?

    So my nominees are:





    My cup of English tea


    The diary of a muslim girl


    The album


    Doing it natural blog

    ….there were really so many bloggers I wanted to add to the list but rules are rules…

    Looking forward to your answers.

    Don’t forget to link it back to this post so I can see them.

    Wishing you blessings for every day that goes in this week.

    Losing Bellly Fat- 15 effective ways

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    Always found that belly fat a nuisance? Well, here are 15 tips to help you get rid of them.

    Tip 1: First thing first, you need to be motivated. Losing weight takes a lot effort and time so you need to be properly motivated so you won’t give up easily.

    Tip 2: Choose a fitness routine that’s just right for you. You can browse them out on goggle or youtube.

    Tip 3: Rather than eating three large meals every day, switch to five smaller meals: a light breakfast, a mid-morning snack, a light lunch, a mid-afternoon snack, and a balanced dinner. Smaller portions more often will keep you from feeling hungry. And by the way, when I say “snack,” of course I mean something healthful, not a Twinkie! 

    Tip 4: Doing your weight bearing exercises – one of the best way of losing belly fat. think you’ll need to spend the rest of your life doing sit-ups and crunches only, so you can burn belly fat and keep it off, that’s not quite true. You’ll need to do all sorts of exercises, in moderation, including weight bearing exercises, like brisk walking, jogging, and the like. Remember, overall fitness and nutrition is the key for losing stomach fat, and making sure it doesn’t come

    Tip 5: Do your non-weight bearing exercises too. In addition to the weight bearing exercises to help you burn belly fat, you’ll also need to add non-weight bearing exercises, like biking and rowing. These two (weight bearing and non-weight bearing), combined with weight training and cardio, and some yoga thrown in for good measure, will give you a lifetime of fitness and good health — and of course will melt that belly fat away for good.

    Tip 6: Never skip breakfast. It can actually be one of those things that cause stomach fat! If you don’t eat after many hours of sleeping your body goes into ‘starvation mode’. This is bad news for shedding belly fat as it slows your metabolism down in an effort to save energy and burn less calories. In fact a lot of dietitians advice that the best breakfast is a heavy one.

    Tip 7: One of the best ways to lose stomach fat fast is to try and eat more fat burning foods such as brown rice, whole grains, vegetables, natural fruits, skimmed milk, lean poultry or meat, seafood and egg whites.

    Tip 8: Cut down or eliminate the consumption of alcohol. Because of the effects alcohol has on the liver, drinking alcoholic drinks slows down the body’s natural fat burning proces.

    Tip 9: I hate the scale. We all think of it as the end-all, be-all of weight loss measurement, but it’s not. First of all, as women, our weight is prone to fluctuate a little on its own with our own natural cycles. Also, as we build lean muscle and lose stomach fat, we’ll actually gain a little weight, though we’re losing inches. Ignore the scale. Or, if you just can’t help yourself, keep the weigh-ins to a minimum, maybe once a week or every two weeks.

    Tip 10: Drink, drink and drink. While trying to lose belly fat, its important to stay hydrated. If you are dehydrated your liver won’t function, making the fat losing process ineffective.

    Tip 11: Want a quick tip to make it look like you’ve lost inches, even when you haven’t (yet)? Suck your tummy in, put your shoulder back, keep your head up, and, with this good posture, you’ll look (and even FEEL) much fitter — it’s even easier to breathe this way! In a way you’ll be toning your abdominal muscles, and as you know – they are essential in losing stomach fat faster

    Tip 12: Swim. I know I sound like a broken record, but if you don’t exercise regularly, you’ll never lose belly fat. One of the best ways to exercise, and the most fun this summer, is to swim!

    Tip 13: Eat slowly – an effective way of losing stomach fat fast. Get into the habit of taking smaller bites and chewing them slowly because that will ensure that you consume fewer calories and do not over-eat. How? Well, it takes our brain about 20 minutes to register that we are full. So if you don’t take your time to eat, chances are you’re eating past the point where you’re full. Eating slowly gives you enough time to realize when you should stop.

    Tip 14: A good night sleep. If you are not sleeping at least 7-8 hours per night you will find it difficult to find the energy to work out and eat well. Studies show people who are constantly tired have slower metabolisms.  So, make sure you get a good night sleep every night!

    Tip 15: Skip the junk food. Skip the fast food. Why? It’s loaded with calories.

    Once you’ve got the body you want (no belly fat in sight!), that doesn’t mean it’s time to rest on your laurels. Don’t stop exercising. Don’t stop eating right. Keep up with your plan, and you’ll keep your new hot body!

    More tips? Find them in this previous post

    Lose the belly fat!

    It takes courage…

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    Life isn’t easy. It isn’t chocolate and candies, it isn’t spice and sparkles. Thing dont always work out the way we plan. We make plans but sometimes they fall apart. The average person work all day trying to make earns meets. Trying to provide for his family. Trying to meet up to expectations. Some of us glam up our lives on social media but in reality we work very hard to get by.

    Its hard to follow your dreams in a country with a bad economic situation. That suck out the life of the citizens and give little back. It’s really hard to follow dream when it all seems like the odds are against us.

    It takes a lot of courage for us to rise up to be something different. It takes a lot of courage to still pursue our dreams and ambitions no matter the stones life throws out us. It takes a lot courage to pursue who we want to be. It takes lot of courage to try to be more than ordinary. It takes a lot of courage not to give up. It takes courage to trust in God’s purpose for us even if we are not entirely sure what it is.

    Hope is something you give yourself, when you are in despair.
    That’s the meaning of inner strength “

    I hope we find this courage.

    Passion and Potential 🎌

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    One of the biggest differences in people is their level of enthusiasm. Your enthusiasm reflects your unexploited resources and perhaps your future. You will never rise to a great heights without joy and enthusiasm.

    No one keeps up his enthusiasm automatically” – Papyrus. Enthusiasm must be nourished with new actions, new aspirations, new efforts and new vision. Its your own fault if your enthusiasm is gone. You have failed to feed it. What’s enthusiasm? Henry Chester answers “Enthusiasm is nothing more or less than in faith.” Helen Keller said, “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” It simply means to be “full of God.” Nothing of real importance can be done without hope or confidence in Him.

    You can’t deliver the goods if your heart is heavier than the load. There is a direct correlation between our passion and our potential. You could be the light of the world, but no one will know it unless the switch is turned on. Follow the book of Ecclesiastics says, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.” I agree with Winston Churchill when he said, “I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else.”

    Adopted from “Why Ask Why” – John Mason.