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Levels Of Intelligence (more than maths and english)

Hey guys,
Long time, no see right? For the past few weeks, I’ve been in this phase where its like I’ve lost all enthusiasm and I can’t get myself to do anything and at the same time I feel very overwhelmed. I miss blogging and I’m thankful to all my followers for sticking with me.

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Last week in Church, I had the opportunity of learning something new and the other day, I was watching a Korean series (School 2017) where the main character Eun Ho and some other students are discriminated against by the teachers and school authority because they are at the bottom of the class in terms of grade. The thing is, Eun Ho might not be so good academically but she’s very talented at drawing. Her drawings are real. She plans to enter College by winning a drawing/webtoon competition. The unfortunate thing is that her teachers do not realise nor appreciate it.

Most times, students’ intelligence are judged by how good they are academically. In Nigeria and in many countries of the world, you have to get at least a C in mathematics and English or your O’level result is null and void. Lately, I’ve learnt there so much more to intelligence than that.

According to the American developmental psychologist Howard Gardener, there are nine levels of intelligence

1. Linguistic Intelligence: This is the ability or the talent to put words together.
Some people has that ability to speak eloquently, even in the midst of people.

2. Mathematical / Logistical Intelligence: Everyone has or had that classmate who seem to know all the answers to every math equation.That’s the perfect example of someone with this sort of intelligence.

3. Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence: This is the ability to maneuver your body to music. E.g. Dancing. It’s also the capacity to stay graceful and coordinated when using a range of physical skills and manipulating objects.  E.g surgeons, athletes.

4. Inter-personal intelligence: This has to do with being able to understand another person’s feelings and interact effectively with others.

Leadership comes easy to people with this type of intelligence because understanding people’s motive and being able to effectively communicate is what makes a good leader.

5. Musical Intelligence: To be able to put words together. It’s more than singing, it’s being able to create music. Write songs, play instruments.

6. Naturalistic Intelligence: Also known as nature smart. This refers to human beings sensitivity to the natural world. It’s also seen in the way consumers discriminate between products. This becomes a vital skill for people who end up being chefs and botanist.

7. Spatial Intelligence: This has to with being able to visualise. Like our dear Eun Ho, you can’t draw without visualising. They consider things in third dimension and are highly creative. Also, fashion designing, graphic design, architects, sculptors, painters.

8. Intra-personal Intelligence: This has to do with being able to understand yourself, your feeling, what you want. You ask some students about their future ambition, and it’s like they have it all figured out while some will say ‘They don’t know’. That’s the difference between some one who has intra-personal intelligence and someone who doesn’t.

9. Existential Intelligence: To be able to understand and explain to a large extent why we are here on earth, the meaning of life, why we die.

Understanding these levels of intelligence, helps you discover what your talents are.

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More Than Just Competing

Competition has a way of bringing out the best in us. We get to see how good we are, because we are made to face different persons with different sort of training, in an unfamiliar environment. It helps us to improve, because we really get to see our weak points and it get us challenged.

There are a lot of competitive platforms opening up here and there, but there are a still lot of us who refuses to participate and put ourselves out there. Bringing the question, why?

So in the last weeks, the teachers in my church announced that ten teenagers would be needed to participate in a Bible Quiz competition with teens from other churches and Christian denominations. At the same time representing the church over there. When this was first announced, there were no willing volunteers.

We’re afraid to try.

A lot of persons tells my elder sister to go for modelling competition and pageantry. Still, my sister is reluctant and once I asked her why and she said “What if I spend a lot of efforts and money and then I don’t win?”

A lot of persons are afraid to try for many reasons and mostly because they fear failing. They are afraid of disappointing themselves and others.

So for this quiz competition, a friend of mine told she wasn’t sure she would  participate because the last time she went on something like it, she didn’t come out successful and let her team down. That bringing another reason, ‘the fear of trying again’. 

You make a lot of mistakes and all the time, the most High God forgives you and gives you another chance. So who are you not to give yourself a second chance? Why would you let that single event bring you down?

Don’t think of it as losing but as an improvement exercise, because you’ve learnt something new.

In every competition, some one has to win and others, lose. If this help; don’t think of it as losing but as an improvement exercise, because you’ve learnt something new.

The truth is, even if we don’t admit it, there are competitions every where – in our work, school, business. Some one else is aiming for that position you are working hard to get. You have a classmates who wants to best you.

 What Helps?

A lot of things; amazing self esteem, working hard, preparedness but mostly, having God in your life. When you have God in your life, letting Him be the Lord of your life, you discover things aren’t so hard with Him.

2 Timothy 1:7 says ‘For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.’

God gives us the boldness to express ourselves and the strength to excel.

So next time when a competitive platform arises be it singing, writing, dancing, quizzes, scholarships, anything at all and you start getting doubts, feeling unsure and uncertain, remember to talk to God, tell Him to take control, then you’ll feel those tangles of fears and insecurities begin to disperse.

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This is it for today. I do hope you liked it. Make sure to tell me what you think about anything and every thing. Also a quick apology, for taking a while to reply some of your comments. Been a bit busy but please still them coming.  

Thanks,

Nessa.

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Bad Days

We all have one of those days that it seems nothing we do turns out right. Even when we try it’s like the universe is screwing with us.

That particular day when you’re hungry and you decided to cook, only for you to get distracted for a bit and end up burning the food. You try cooking again but discovered you are out of groceries and cash. So you decided to go to the nearest ATM but so it happened that everyone chose that day to withdraw, as you meet a long queue and have no option but to wait in line on an empty stomach.

That day when you walk to class and something happens to make your dress to get torn in not the most convenient of places, only for the lecturer not to show up at the end.

Or the day you decide to wear a white dress out but got stained because your period decided to visit early.

Then you feel really down and it likes it can’t get better and nothing can cheer you up. Well here are some tips that could really help lift your spirits on those days…

1. Read a Book: Some of you are probably thinking “That would be the last thing on my mind”. I still stand on my point. Books have a way of pulling you into elsewhere but on a bad day, I’ll say opt for a light read or a comedy or your favorite book. Personally I can’t read anything with a serious theme on those kind of days, so I go with something light, mostly a Sophie Kinsella book. It helps cheer me up.

2. Watch a Movie: Watching a movie is a really good distraction from the stress of a bad day.

3. Talk to Someone: No matter what you the do, nothing seem to work out right today . Sometimes talking to a friend about how shitty your day has been is one remedy to help lifts your spirit up. There’s nothing like letting all the stress out.

4. It’s okay to cry: Sometimes when my day just keep stressing me out and I really don’t know what to do. I just go to a corner and cry. Now now, you might think that’s insane. But it’s okay to breakdown, you can’t always be on top of the situation on all times. As long as you know that when you do stand up, you are 100% on your feet.

5. Give yourself a treat: You’ve been having a horrning,  give yourself a treat – you deserve. It probably wasn’t on your budget. Have fun. Make yourself feel better.

6. Turn on your playlist: If you’ve done your research, you would know music is like a balm to the soul, it soothens the mind and an amazing form of therapy. Okay a lot of us know this. So what the heck. What better way to lift your spirit on one of those days, than playing your favorite songs. 

7. Pray: This is the last on my list but by no means the least. A friend of mine one told me that when she’s having a bad day, she prays. She talks to God in prayers and asks Him to have mercy on her if there’s anyway she had sinned that is making her day not go right and that He should take control. Her statement really got to me. The thing is, as human beings, we feel so busy that we leave God out in the lurch of things. When we sleep we have no idea what happens to us. We are clueless like unconscious. There are perfectly healthy persons who had passed away in their sleeps. But God in His mercy woke us up this morning, and we bother to utter one word of gratitude but think it’s perfect to blame Him when things start going wrong. It’s not good enough.

Do you find any of this tips helpful to you? Any you want to add? I love to know what you think about everything and anything.

Bad Days shouldn’t stay bad.

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Nessa. 

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life suddenly feels lighter.

” I firmly believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid runway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are – particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (I’m not a big one for paying compliments…), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter. “

Jonathan Carroll.

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We Must Do Better

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“We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likeable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we  turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.

Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask that we should begin to dream about and plan for a different world. A fairer world. A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: we must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently.

We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity is a hard, small cage, and we put boys inside this cage.

   We teach boys to be afraid of fear, of weakness, of  vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be, in Nigerianspeak, a hard man.

   In secondary school, a boy and a girl go out, both of them teenagers with meagre pocket money. Yet the boy is expected to pay the bills, always, to prove his masculinity. (And we wonder why boys are more likely to steal money from their parents.)

   What if both boys and girls were raised not to link masculinity and money? What if their attitude was not ‘the boy has to pay’, but rather, ‘whoever  has more should pay’? Of course, because of their historical advantage, it is mostly men who will have more today. But if we start raising children differently, then in fifty years, in a hundred years, boys will no longer have the pressure of proving their masculinity by material means.

   But by far the worst thing we do to males – by making them feel they have to be hard – is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is.

   And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males.

   We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.

   We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him.’

   But what if we question the premise itself? Why should a woman’s success be a threat to a man? What if we decide to simply dispose of that word – and I don’t know if there is an English word I dislike more than this – emasculation.

Because I am female, I’m expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Marriage can be a good thing, a source of joy, love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage, yet we don’t teach boys to do the same?

   It is easy to say, ‘But women can just say no to all this.’ But the reality is more difficult, more complex. We are all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization.Our society teaches a woman at a certain age who is unmarried to see it as a deep personal failure. While a man at a certain age who is unmarried has not quite come around to making his pick.
  
We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what a woman is more likely to do.We police girls. We praise girls for virginity but we don’t praise boys for virginity (and it makes me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out, since the loss of virginity is a process that usually involves two people of opposite genders).

The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.

   All of us, women and men, must do better.”


– Chiamanda Ngozi Adichie

We Should All Be Feminist

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It takes courage…

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Life isn’t easy. It isn’t chocolate and candies, it isn’t spice and sparkles. Thing dont always work out the way we plan. We make plans but sometimes they fall apart. The average person work all day trying to make earns meets. Trying to provide for his family. Trying to meet up to expectations. Some of us glam up our lives on social media but in reality we work very hard to get by.

Its hard to follow your dreams in a country with a bad economic situation. That suck out the life of the citizens and give little back. It’s really hard to follow dream when it all seems like the odds are against us.

It takes a lot of courage for us to rise up to be something different. It takes a lot of courage to still pursue our dreams and ambitions no matter the stones life throws out us. It takes a lot courage to pursue who we want to be. It takes lot of courage to try to be more than ordinary. It takes a lot of courage not to give up. It takes courage to trust in God’s purpose for us even if we are not entirely sure what it is.

Hope is something you give yourself, when you are in despair.
That’s the meaning of inner strength “

I hope we find this courage.

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What Defines You?

” All of us have our little problems and insecurities. I’m no different. Back in high school when I used to feel insecure about something, I would console myself with two thoughts: I’m pretty, and my parents love me. Between those two, I could survive anything.
   Since then I’ve come to understand how little the former matters, and how bitterly the latter can be tested. What’s left then? Nothing about our appearance or who loves or hates us. Nothing about our brainpower—which, like beauty, is an unearned gift of
genetics—nor even anything about what we say.
   It’s our actions that define us. What we choose. What we resist. What we’re willing to die for.”

Karen Marie Morning

Bloodfever


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I apologise if you think the post too short, I am really busy with work so my mind is kind of a blank space. But you know what they say ‘its not all about the length but the content.’