Bad Days

We all have one of those days that it seems nothing we do turns out right. Even when we try it’s like the universe is screwing with us.

That particular day when you’re hungry and you decided to cook, only for you to get distracted for a bit and end up burning the food. You try cooking again but discovered you are out of groceries and cash. So you decided to go to the nearest ATM but so it happened that everyone chose that day to withdraw, as you meet a long queue and have no option but to wait in line on an empty stomach.

That day when you walk to class and something happens to make your dress to get torn in not the most convenient of places, only for the lecturer not to show up at the end.

Or the day you decide to wear a white dress out but got stained because your period decided to visit early.

Then you feel really down and it likes it can’t get better and nothing can cheer you up. Well here are some tips that could really help lift your spirits on those days…

1. Read a Book: Some of you are probably thinking “That would be the last thing on my mind”. I still stand on my point. Books have a way of pulling you into elsewhere but on a bad day, I’ll say opt for a light read or a comedy or your favorite book. Personally I can’t read anything with a serious theme on those kind of days, so I go with something light, mostly a Sophie Kinsella book. It helps cheer me up.

2. Watch a Movie: Watching a movie is a really good distraction from the stress of a bad day.

3. Talk to Someone: No matter what you the do, nothing seem to work out right today . Sometimes talking to a friend about how shitty your day has been is one remedy to help lifts your spirit up. There’s nothing like letting all the stress out.

4. It’s okay to cry: Sometimes when my day just keep stressing me out and I really don’t know what to do. I just go to a corner and cry. Now now, you might think that’s insane. But it’s okay to breakdown, you can’t always be on top of the situation on all times. As long as you know that when you do stand up, you are 100% on your feet.

5. Give yourself a treat: You’ve been having a horrning,  give yourself a treat – you deserve. It probably wasn’t on your budget. Have fun. Make yourself feel better.

6. Turn on your playlist: If you’ve done your research, you would know music is like a balm to the soul, it soothens the mind and an amazing form of therapy. Okay a lot of us know this. So what the heck. What better way to lift your spirit on one of those days, than playing your favorite songs. 

7. Pray: This is the last on my list but by no means the least. A friend of mine one told me that when she’s having a bad day, she prays. She talks to God in prayers and asks Him to have mercy on her if there’s anyway she had sinned that is making her day not go right and that He should take control. Her statement really got to me. The thing is, as human beings, we feel so busy that we leave God out in the lurch of things. When we sleep we have no idea what happens to us. We are clueless like unconscious. There are perfectly healthy persons who had passed away in their sleeps. But God in His mercy woke us up this morning, and we bother to utter one word of gratitude but think it’s perfect to blame Him when things start going wrong. It’s not good enough.

Do you find any of this tips helpful to you? Any you want to add? I love to know what you think about everything and anything.

Bad Days shouldn’t stay bad.

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Nessa. 

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Stage Fright – lets flush it down the drain.

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Stage fright is a problem that is found among the rich, poor, fat, thin, good looking and bad looking alike, so it really is a problem that doesn’t respect status, or gender. It doesnt mind whether you are the daughter of a pastor, or an usher, or you got cash in your pocket. Whether at home or in a podium. *STAGE FRIGHT DOESN’T CARE. ALL IT CARES ABOUT IS TO DISGRACE YOU AT EVERY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY IT HAS.*
Stage fright is very common among singers, keyboardists, pianists, teachers and a lot of others. It affects all profession that has to do with facing crowds or becoming the spot light.
Stage fright is a situation whereby one is afraid to sing, play, stand, talk or seat in front of a little or large audience or simply defined, it’s the refusal to be the spot light in any place and at any time.

The signs that follow stage fright are:
*1.* Loud and fast heart beat while singing or talking before an audience.
*2.* Visible vibration/tension in the body while standing, singing, acting or playing an instrument before an audience.
*3.* Stammering or stuttering voice while singing, acting, playing an instrument, standing or talking before an audience.
 Have you once noticed that after practicing a piece in your closet perfectly for hours you will go out there and discover you can’t even play or sing it again, sometimes your fingers start shaking on it’s own or sometimes you will just completely forget the lines.

HOW TO CONQUER STAGE FRIGHT*

1.* The best way to overcome your fears is to learn to face your fears. Stop avoiding crowds rather start looking for such opportunities.

2.* Believe in yourself. If you continue to feel you are incapable because you are not the best then you might never grow out of stage fright. You don’t need to be the best singer, or instrumentalist, all you need do is believe in yourself.

3.* Train yourself into perfection. In order to be confident enough to face crowds you need to train yourself to the point where you can look at yourself and say, ”I can really sing”, ”I have a good voice”, ”I can really play this drums”, ” now I can play this keyboard”. Untill you are good enough in your own eyes you will never be confident enough to face even that small crowd.

4.* Stop trying to be a perfectionist. You need to know that there’s nothing wrong in making mistakes. You need to also be able to accept the possibility of you making mistakes. Perfect people are not those that have never failed but those that refuse to let their failures make them failures by not stoping right where they failed.

5.* Stop seeing your audience as your enemies who are looking out for your mistakes but smile and relate with them looking into their eyes as friends and family members.

6.* Don’t try to hide your physical faults, rather accept your faults. And don’t focus now on what people think about it, but focus rather on what God says about it.

7.* Focus on your strength and abilities, not on your weaknesses. In order words, when ever you want to face the crowd try not to do what you are not good at, but rather on what you are good at.

*8.* Stop imagining yourself failing rather start to imagine yourself making impact into the lives of your audience.
Not about the mistakes you made, but about how the little part you got transformed and blessed someone out there in the audience. This should be our focus.

9.* Stop scaring yourself with thoughts of what might go wrong rather think about things that are re-assuring, about how some one would be blessed as a result of your ministration.

10.* Never depend on drugs to help reduce tension rather learn to create a communicating relationship with your audience first of all by laughing and playing with ur audience like you would do to your friends before telling them something.

11.* Always spend lots of time to prepare very well before climbing the stage.

12.* Visualize your success and if you are born again, you should be confident in the fact that you have God dwelling in you. Knowing that it’s not by power nor by might but by His spirit.

GET ON THE STAGE

Are you one of those persons that when told to speak or perform in front of an audience, end up saying things like “I can’t. I have stage fright.” You sing perfectly in your bedroom but tell yourself you can’t do it in front of anyone else . Ever heard the saying “Fear kills first.”
The thing is we keep limiting ourselves when we tell ourselves ‘we can’t.’ I see a lot of talented persons, friends, that don’t get noticed, that keeps hiding in their shells because they keep looking down at them selves, they don’t believe in themselves, they let fear overwhelmed them, they keep telling themselves things like, ‘I’m not meant for the crowd.’

Who tells you, you have stage fright? No one. You tell yourself that and if you keep on with it, that’s how it’s going to be.

You see someone get on that stage and perform and you know you can do better. You look at that person with longing because deep in your heart, you want to be the one on that stage but you let the fear of failing, of not doing well enough keep you down.

You have to try. You have to push yourself. Its hard, yes. Try first by thinking positive, saying ‘ I can.’ ‘I’ll try my best’.

One thing to note: Practice makes perfect.

There is no magic, the only way to get rid of stage fright is to get on the stage.

The Breakfast Of Champion

No obstacle will ever leave you the way it found you. You will either be better or worse. Problems are the price of progress. The obstacles of life are intended to make us better not bitter. Adversity has advantages.

The truth is that if you like things easy, you will have difficulties. If you like problems, you will succeed. The biggest successes are the ones who solve the biggest problems. The Bible is a book of problems filled with stories of men and women who faced incredible challenges and with God’s help overcame them and found themselves at another level.

The Chinese have a proverb that says, “The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials” . It seems that great trials are the necessary preparation for greatness. Consider what Jesus said; “Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up for I have overcome the world.”

When you encounter obstacles, you will discover things about yourself that you never really knew. You will also find out what you really believe. Every problem introduces a person to himself. The breakfast of champions is not cereal, its problems.
Adapted from “Why Ask Why”- John Mason.

The Risk Realm

It is amazing to me how many people decide in advance that they are going to fail and not reach their dreams. Those of us who believe in God can depend on what He said in the book of Philippians, “I can do everything God asks me to do with the help of Christ who gives me the strength and power.” God specialises in working beyond us.
Unless you enter the beehive, you can’t take the honey. You and I are like rubber bands. We are most useful when we are stretched. Calvin Coolidge said, “We do not need more intellectual power, we need more spiritual power. We do not need more things that are seen, we need more of the things that are unseen.” The reason so little is accomplished is because so little is attempted.

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.” (Seneca). The definition of impossible: Something nobody can do until somebody does. Risk is part of every success plan. Bite off more than you can chew. “People who take risks are the people you will lose against” (John Scully). You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.

Adapted from Why ask Why – John Mason.

Passion and Potential 🎌

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One of the biggest differences in people is their level of enthusiasm. Your enthusiasm reflects your unexploited resources and perhaps your future. You will never rise to a great heights without joy and enthusiasm.

No one keeps up his enthusiasm automatically” – Papyrus. Enthusiasm must be nourished with new actions, new aspirations, new efforts and new vision. Its your own fault if your enthusiasm is gone. You have failed to feed it. What’s enthusiasm? Henry Chester answers “Enthusiasm is nothing more or less than in faith.” Helen Keller said, “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” It simply means to be “full of God.” Nothing of real importance can be done without hope or confidence in Him.

You can’t deliver the goods if your heart is heavier than the load. There is a direct correlation between our passion and our potential. You could be the light of the world, but no one will know it unless the switch is turned on. Follow the book of Ecclesiastics says, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.” I agree with Winston Churchill when he said, “I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else.”

Adopted from “Why Ask Why” – John Mason.