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Happy New Year

I’m typing this exactly 11:02. For the remaining weeks of the December last year (OMG, I can’t believe we are already saying last year) I took an impromptu blogging break. impromptu because its something I did really thought of, I didn’t tell anyone I just decided to unplug from all sort of social network. Why? I guess I was losing perspective on some certain things. Also with my blogging, what do I want to do with it? What is it doing for me? But like someone said “Bloggers help people”, so I guess that’s what I’m doing.

I got to talk to a fellow blogger, she’s has a lovely personality, she’s amazing and got a beautiful blog. Esther of

Estheradeniyiblog and talking with her helped me figure some stuffs out. I think I was focusing a lot on trying to be like others, I forgot what its like to be me.

A friend told me that in the period I went off, I’ll definitely lose followers and readers and I totally accept it, so I’m grateful to anyone reading it.

I blog because I like it. It’s fun, I like because it’s fun but it’s a new year and I plan to take it a bit seriously. How? By scheduling my post.

I have decided to start scheduling my post and honestly I’m a pretty busy person. So I’ve come up with for the now, posting twice every week. Yea! You’ll be hearing from me twice every week. Maybe more, okay I can’t promise that. I still haven’t figured out the particular days but when I do you’ll know. That’s what we do when we are young you know, we live our lives still figuring out.

HAPPY NEW YEAR, and I don’t know about you but I’m pretty excited about it. I should probably scribble this out on a piece of paper but then again, I want to share it with you guys. So here are my new year resolutions in no particular order.

1. Be a better singer: I love singing and I definitely love when I sound good while doing it. There are three categories of singers; the good, the bad and the untrained. There’s so much room for improvement for me. So I got a PDF file its “90 days to become a better singer” and I attended a few online classes. So the plan is to practice.

2. Learn a Skill: I thinking weaving hair. I have no idea who I’m learning from but we’ll see what pops up.

3. Study 100%: It’s my first year of uni and I plan to study real hard. I don’t know if that sounds cliché but It’s my plan. I refuse to take my study for granted.

4. Regular Fitness routine: So I recently started this 100 crunches in two weeks and it’s really hard and painful for me but the results will be worth it. Also other fitness routine I plan to try out. I’m not losing weight or anything.I just want to take care of my physical health. I think my greatest challenge is following things through but we will see.

5. Work on my manuscript: So I have some few uncompleted manuscripts so I’m making this year my year of working and possibly finishing them.

6. Build a better relationship with God.

So what are your new year resolutions? You can even do a post and tag me, I would love to read it.

Wishing you the best of 2018.

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Questions You Never Thought To Ask Tag

Hey guys, happy new week. It seems I’m behind on all my tags. I’ve been quite busy with admission and clearance wahala. Oh yes, it seems I’m now an undergrad. Proud student of the University of Benin over here.

Now let’s get to it.

I’ve been tagged by

Claire Yang. Thank you very much. Check out her blog, she writes great poetry.

Now let’s get to it.


They are pretty simple.
Answer the following questions.
Tag other bloggers
And they answer the same questions

But from me to you, if you want to interchange the some of the questions with your own when you ask other bloggers, you can. But don’t reduce.

Every tag is supposed to have an official image. I don’t know why this doesn’t.


1. What game consoles have you had?

A few. I’ve had an xbox. Then Nintendo ‘Just Dance’.

2. If you could tame any animal into being your pet, what would you pick?

Still thinking 😔

3. Are you a sexual person?

Now, that is too personal of a question, in my opinion.

4. Foods you despise?

I do not like bananas. It’s not a food though, I know. it’s a fruit.

5. Coolest place you’ve ever visited?

I don’t know.  I won’t give the ‘coolest’ title to the places I’ve visited. Some were pretty cool though but coolest is reserved for some where better

6. Why did you first start blogging/YouTube?

I started blogging  mostly because I felt like. I had no idea what I was getting into.

7. Favorite item from closet?

My jeans. I love my jeans.
8. Do you prefer a backpack/big bag/small bag/just wallet?

I prefer a small bag. Most things I carry around are my phone, charger, cash, a book and pen. So it must be able to contain those stuffs.

9. Favorite video/computer/phone game?

Do I have a favourite? Hmmm, don’t think so.

10. One celebrity you would sleep with?

Are you serious? None really.

11. Favorite traits for a partner/friend?

Honesty and forgiveness. The last thing I need is a friend who keeps grudges.

12. Your personality?

How do I put it in words? I’m pretty lay back but I set standards for myself and the kind of people I surround myself with. I always put God first. When I want to do something, first question I ask myself, ‘Would God be happy with what I’m about to do?’

13. When’s the last time you took a risk?

My dress to church. A fashion risk.

14. Fashion trend you would never do?

They are a few but I don’t know how to describe them.

15. One physical trait about you that only you notice?

I doubt I have such like that.

16. One emotional trait about you that only you notice?

I don’t care as much as people think I do.

17. 3 weird things about you off the top of your head?

Okay, these things might not be weird but I’m going with popular opinion here.

I tend to laugh at things people don’t think are funny.

I think my laugh is a bit weird.

Sometimes I dance, even when no music is playing. But trust me when I say, I was making my own music in my head.

18. Favorite cheese?

Cheese balls?

19. 3 things you use everyday that you need?

My phone.
My charger.
My Jesus Christ. I don’t think I can survive any day without Him by my side and in my life.

20. Favorite youtubers/actresses/media people?

There is one. She hosted Miss Maliaki, Ghana a few weeks ago. I can’t remember her know. Can you imagine but I’m currently loving her. She also host shows on the Ghana GH1 channel.

21. One thing that makes you happy everyday?


22. One question you wish you could get an answer to?

One? I have plenty concerning the future.

23. Something about your childhood that affects you today?

My upbringing?

24. What life is all about for you?

Life isn’t just about living but living it well.

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So I’m tagging anyone and everyone who wants to or feel like doing this tag. Yes, I’m talking to you. Just make sure to link it back to me so I can read your answers.

Remember, don’t overthink it. Just have fun.

Wanna drop your thoughts? You’re totally free.

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More Than Just Competing

Competition has a way of bringing out the best in us. We get to see how good we are, because we are made to face different persons with different sort of training, in an unfamiliar environment. It helps us to improve, because we really get to see our weak points and it get us challenged.

There are a lot of competitive platforms opening up here and there, but there are a still lot of us who refuses to participate and put ourselves out there. Bringing the question, why?

So in the last weeks, the teachers in my church announced that ten teenagers would be needed to participate in a Bible Quiz competition with teens from other churches and Christian denominations. At the same time representing the church over there. When this was first announced, there were no willing volunteers.

We’re afraid to try.

A lot of persons tells my elder sister to go for modelling competition and pageantry. Still, my sister is reluctant and once I asked her why and she said “What if I spend a lot of efforts and money and then I don’t win?”

A lot of persons are afraid to try for many reasons and mostly because they fear failing. They are afraid of disappointing themselves and others.

So for this quiz competition, a friend of mine told she wasn’t sure she would  participate because the last time she went on something like it, she didn’t come out successful and let her team down. That bringing another reason, ‘the fear of trying again’. 

You make a lot of mistakes and all the time, the most High God forgives you and gives you another chance. So who are you not to give yourself a second chance? Why would you let that single event bring you down?

Don’t think of it as losing but as an improvement exercise, because you’ve learnt something new.

In every competition, some one has to win and others, lose. If this help; don’t think of it as losing but as an improvement exercise, because you’ve learnt something new.

The truth is, even if we don’t admit it, there are competitions every where – in our work, school, business. Some one else is aiming for that position you are working hard to get. You have a classmates who wants to best you.

 What Helps?

A lot of things; amazing self esteem, working hard, preparedness but mostly, having God in your life. When you have God in your life, letting Him be the Lord of your life, you discover things aren’t so hard with Him.

2 Timothy 1:7 says ‘For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.’

God gives us the boldness to express ourselves and the strength to excel.

So next time when a competitive platform arises be it singing, writing, dancing, quizzes, scholarships, anything at all and you start getting doubts, feeling unsure and uncertain, remember to talk to God, tell Him to take control, then you’ll feel those tangles of fears and insecurities begin to disperse.

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This is it for today. I do hope you liked it. Make sure to tell me what you think about anything and every thing. Also a quick apology, for taking a while to reply some of your comments. Been a bit busy but please still them coming.  



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Choose to be Informed.

We are always told that Information is vital to every great man. It’s a key to success and stuffs like that. Well I personally never really keyed into those saying. Until recently I learnt an important lesson. It’s really important for us especially as teens to make an effort to know happenings around us.
I used to be one of those persons who never really bother to watch the daily news, or listen to it on radio, or read the papers. I didn’t care much for current affairs. I had this “I don’t care” attitude going on.

So it turns out the Joint Admission and Matriculation Board (JAMB), a body over here in Nigeria that work on admitting students to tertiary institutions, had made an announcement that every aspiring university should reupload their O’level results on the JAMB portal.
Time frame: A maximum of two weeks.
Status: Compulsory and very important. Or kiss entering the university this year goodbye.

And there I was completely oblivious. I wasn’t connected to any news media so I had no idea.

It was precisely September 13th and I was talking to a friend of mine. We were chatting and I asked her where she was. She told me she was on her way to her way to the JAMB Office to upload her WAEC (O’level) results again. You should have seen my face when she explained, I was like ‘what???’

So I start calling a lot of friends and started collecting info and it’s a really long story. Not going to bore you with details. The exercise ended Sep. 15th. I did mine Sep. 14th. It was a narrow escape, you would say. When I ask someone why didn’t she tell me about. She told me she thought I knew because well, everyone knew.

There wasn’t really anyone to blame but myself. I chose not to care. I chose not to be informed. My mum was pretty disappointed in me when I told her. It must have seem like an act of unseriousness on my part. I was also disappointed in myself. I didn’t dwell on it though. I just got rid of the I don’t care attitude.

So this is me as I waited in the JAMB office to upload my results. I was with a friend but you can only see her hand

So since then, I make sure whenever I can to watch the daily news, the world news. It’s been an Eye-opener because stuffs happens. A lot of things are happening in the world.
The flooding in Puerto Rico, mass shooting in Las Vagas, the Syrian refuges, the tension between UN and North Korea, human rights abuse and so much more. It makes me really appreciate God for what I have. I might not have the most expensive things but I have a family. A roof over my head. I don’t go to bed on an empty stomach. It’s not because I’m better than those people, not at all, but God’s grace and mercy in my life. And it’s not something I can really explain because I would have to go deep.

I don’t know what you would choose to pick out from this my little write up, but I leave you with this; 

Always care and Always be grateful.

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Be Original

-John Mason

The first time I read this quote I immediately dismissed it, categorizing it as one of those inspirational quote that isn’t really inspirational. But then I saw the quote again, it was everywhere because it was on the back cover of a bulletin shared in my church on Sunday so everyone in my house had a copy. Reading it again, it sounded differently in my head and I thought a lot about it.

“You were born an original.
Don’t die a copy.”

I thought about those many times I had tried to fit in with some set of people, or into a particular clique. I saw those I called ‘cool girls’ and then I pretended to like what they do and participated in topics I had no interest in just so that I could talk with them. So they would look at me and say, You’re cool” and then I would feel good about myself.

I thought about those friends I had but I could never really be myself with because they didn’t understand it and would call me ‘weird’. So even though I didn’t really get the humour of the joke they were all laughing about, I smile. So even though I hate teasing and laughing at people behind their backs, I went along with it because they do. It was forced. I was always being conscious of my actions. And there, there were those times I felt like I was really forcing myself, I felt left out,  like I wasn’t wanted, like I was interrupting. It was a sad and lonely thought. So I would tell them ‘Later guys, I have something to do’. Then I would go sit by myself and act like I was busy with stuffs but really just people-watch.

Looking at people, I thought how many of them are really being themselves? How many of them are pretending to be something they aren’t, so they would fit in and be “accepted”? I wonder how many of them stayed up all night watching some tv show they don’t really like or browse about celebrities they don’t really care about, just so they can ‘participate’. That moment I thought, ‘That’s just…bad.’

I didn’t know how but I did it. Maybe I do know how but I don’t want to bore you with all the details and make this post so long, you wouldn’t read it to the end and I want you to read it to the end. I broke out of the shell. I stop trying 😣 to force myself on people and worked on being the best version of who I am. The first thing I discovered was that I couldn’t really be close to those friends because we didn’t mix well. Was it hard at first? Yes. Did I lose friends? Some. I made new friends. I was really happy. I was happy with them.

The others, they respected me. Most weren’t close to me but we would greet each other. We could never talk for hours. I saw the way they looked at me. I liked it. That look that said Well, she’s different ‘ because different isn’t bad after all. Some told me You have changed ‘, but the thing is, I didn’t change bae you just didn’t know me.

Today when I scroll down my contact list and see the number of – in Nigerian slang ‘my real paddies’. The friends I made by being myself and we happen to mix well. They are really few. I don’t see them much for a number of reasons but when I do see them, talk or chat with them, I feel real giddy and happy much happier than I was with those friends.

Sometimes I think and wonder about how many people look at me now and try to be ‘copies’. I really wish they wouldn’t. At those weak moments when I find myself unconsciously trying to force myself in, I quickly shake myself and tell myself ‘snap out of it’ . I do and I walk away

Bottom line is, my friends if you find yourself being ones of those persons, just like I was, trying so hard, too hard to fit in and pretending to be something you are not, then STOP IT. You are being a copy. You born an ORIGINAL. Be ORIGINAL. Live ORIGINAL. It’s really satisfying to find people who love and appreciate you for who you are, trust me. Being unique is simply being yourself, the best version of yourself.

“An original is hard to find but easy to recognize.” – John Mason .

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Dear Diary,

I remember the first time I decided to keep a diary. I was nine or ten year old, I had just watched the Barbie Diaries; Barbie with a diary that she thought was magical because everything she wrote in it came true. So I told my elder sister, she was a year and half older than me. So we cut off papers and sew them together. She painted the cover for me and drew lovely stickers on it. It was great but I could never maintained it.

I didn’t write what back then I thought was a secret because I thought why try so hard to keep something to myself only to write it down and someone comes across it and reads it. So I stop keeping it.

Two years past, I try the diary thing again, I would write out random things like what I did, what I ate, how school treated me, but I still didn’t write what back then I thought were secrets in it like who I crushed on because I thought what if one of my sisters, or mum or dad come across it. I try to write random things on it everyday but some days, it slips my mind and I forget. I thought there were important things I should be doing rather than sitting here writing some stories that might come not to mean anything later. So I stopped.

Last year, I started again. Why? I thought this time I’d write out what I felt about what happens. I discovered then that the pen couldn’t really capture exactly what I felt and sometimes when I sit down to write, I find out I can’t remember how I felt.

The thing is, life is so vast and I think  its a human nature to try to capture and keep every moment. Except that, we can’t. As human grow older, memories fade and we find ourselves grasping blurry images. But it doesn’t stops us for trying. Though there are those days or moments we can’t ever forget, forever imprinted in our minds.

So am I against keeping diaries? No, no, of course not. I will probably start writing one again. When? I have no idea.  I keep the former ones and when I read then, I’m hit with flashbacks of stuffs that happened back then and I smile.

In the words of Ed Sheeran,
“We keep this love in a photograph
We make these memories for ourselves
Where our eyes are never close
Hearts are never broken
And time is forever frozen still.”

So no matter how some of us might criticize social networks; Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, they have given us a place where we can store and share these memories.

It doesn’t matter how you do, (Writings, Pictures), it’s all, a Dear Diary.

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Quote of the day

“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means that you have decided to look beyond your problems”

Look beyond your problems, Let God take control, Be happy.

With love,

Nessa. 💕