Fences: a page from a book


“I grew up believing in rules, thanks to my parents, Jack and Rainey Lane. I didn’t always like them and I broke them when they didn’t work for me, but they were sturdy things I could rely on to shape the way I lived and keep me—if not totally on the straight and narrow, at least aware there was a straight and narrow I could return to if I got to feeling lost.
  

 Rules serve a purpose. I once told Rowena they were fences for sheep, but fences do more than merely keep sheep in a pasture where shepherds can guide them. They provide protection in the vast and frightening unknown. The night isn’t half as scary when you’re in the center of a fluffybutted herd, bumping rumps with other fluffy butts, not able to see too much, feeling secure and mostly normal.

   Without fences of any kind, the dark night beyond is clearly visible. You stand alone in it. Without rules, you have to decide what you want and what you’re willing to do to get it. You must embrace the weapons with which   you choose to arm yourself to survive.
  

 What we achieve at our best moment doesn’t say much about who we are.
   It all boils down to what we become at our worst moment.
  

 What you find yourself capable of if…say…

   You get stranded in the middle of the ocean with a lone piece of driftwood that will support one person’s weight and not a single ounce more—while floating beside a nice person that needs it as badly as you do.

   That’s the moment that defines you.

   Will you relinquish your only hope of survival to save the stranger? Will it matter if the stranger is old and has lived a full life or young and not yet had the chance?
 

  Will you try to make the driftwood support both of you, ensuring both your deaths?
   

 Or will you battle savagely for the coveted float with full cognizance the argument could be made—even if you merely take the driftwood away without hurting the stranger and swim off—that you’re committing  murder?

   Is it murder in your book?
   

Would you coldbloodedly kill for it?
   How do you feel as you swim away? 

Do you look back? Do tears sting your eyes? Or do you feel like a motherfucking winner?
   . Impeding death has a funny way of popping the shiny, happy bubble of who we think we are. A lot of things do.
 

  I live in a world with few fences. Lately, even those are damned rickety.
  

 I resented that. There was no straight and narrow anymore. ”

– Karen Marie Morning

The fever series

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REAL NEAT BLOG AWARD

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Heeyy guys, I hope you are really doing fine. September is coming to an end. The year is and I’m grateful to God for keeping me through.

You’ve probably guessed from the heading what’s this blog post is about. I want to say a really big thank you to Joharally

Her echoed thoughts

for distinguishing me. She’s a really good writer and an amazing blogger. If you don’t take my word for it. Check out her blog and find out for yourself. You won’t be disappointed.

the rules for this award:

1. Put the award logo on your blog.

2. Thank the people who nominated you, linking to their blogs.

3. Answer the 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.

4. Nominate any number of bloggers you like, linking to their blogs.

5. Let them know you nominated them (by commenting on their blogs, etc.)

HER QUESTIONS
MY ANSWERS

1) We’re all afraid of something, what’s one of your fears?

I’m afraid of being a disappointment.

2) Which celebrity do you think you look like?

I have no idea.

3) Do you prefer muffins or doughnuts?

I prefer doughnuts.

4) What’s your favourite chocolate?

Hmmm, I can’t say. I don’t eat chocolates so much and the ones I do eat, I don’t take notice of their names.

5) On a scale of 1-10, how obssessed with makeup would you say you are?

Definitely 1, I’m not even a tiny bit obsessed . I hardly ever wear makeup. I’m not against it though but I just don’t depend on it. Not being egotistical, I love how beautiful how I’m without it.

6) What’s one language you’ve always wanted to learn?

My cousins are Germans, so I would really want to learn the language for better communication and stuffs. But I would also like to learn how to speak Korean. The movies are not serving as good enough guide.

7) Who’s your favourite Disney princess and why?

Elsa from Frozen. She’s a queen though not a princess. But still my fave. She’s strong, savvy, single and independent. I like the fact that she doesn’t need a man to save and kiss her like most Disney Princess. (I’m looking at you Snow White).

6. Ask your nominees 7 questions
 Here they are

1. We’re all afraid of something, what’s one of your fears?

2. Which celebrity do you think you look like?

3. What’s one attitude or thing about people you find disturbing?

4. On a scale of 1-10, how obssessed with makeup would you say you are?

5. What’s one of the toughest choice you find yourself having to make?

6. What’s one thing about celebrities you find overrated?

7. Who’s your favourite Disney princess and why?

My nominees are: And they definitely deserve this.

Pitri C

Bayanc

The Book cover girls

My vantage point

Phoenix with a pen

That’s it for today.

Have fun,

Remain Blessed,

Nessa.

Books You’ve Read Because Of Blogging, Booktube, e.t.c

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If you are a regular in my blog, you would know I love books a lot. I joined Goodreads recently and I’m in a few book clubs.

Today I’ll be sharing books I got into because I heard of them in the online community.

1. Leigh Badugo’s Grisha Trilogy:
There’s a lot of hype about Liegh Badugo books in the social media. So I decided to get some of her books and I started with the Grisha Trilogy. This is a book I would recommend to a friend but personally I didn’t really enjoyed it. In the first book of the series (shadow and Bone), I thought Alina and the … would be to together but too bad he turned out to be the bad guy. Anyways, I could finish the series. I lost interest in the final book.

2. Stephanie Garber’s Caraval:

This book was one of the monthly reads for an online book club I’m in. This book really grasp my attention. I read it in a sitting. I love the whole circus and magical setting of the book. Remember everything is a game.

3. Karen Marie Morning ‘s Fever Series:
This book was recommended on a group on Facebook. When I read the book one (Bloodfever)… In this series, it was really plain. I saw Mackayla as this girl who wouldn’t move on and start getting herself into unnecessary complicated situation. Mac always mention her sister’s death and her grief, the reason she comes to Dublin, almost everytime that it started to sound like a broken record.

However in the beginning of the third book of the series, things started kicking up and I must admit, the Fever Series is on my top ten best series ever. It has a lot of action, mystery, bad ass sexy immortals, Fae(s) and it blew my mind at every page.

4. Christina Lauren’s Dating You Hating You:
This was recommended by Anna Todd ( author of the After series) on her twitter page. I really enjoyed this book. It was fun to read I loved the relationship between Evie and Carter.  and all their work place pranks and antics.

5. Laini Taylor’s Daughter of Smoke and Bone series:

I read a review of this book right here on wordpress. It was well rated and I decided to get it. I’m currently in the last book of the series and so far, I’m enjoying it.

That’s all for today.

I don’t know if this T5W would be a regular in my blog but it was fun doing it.

T5W is a group on Good reads created by

Samantha

Sorry about the no picture thing, my WordPress app is having issues and its really annoying.

Anyways,

wishing you a lovely week.

Stage Fright – lets flush it down the drain.

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Stage fright is a problem that is found among the rich, poor, fat, thin, good looking and bad looking alike, so it really is a problem that doesn’t respect status, or gender. It doesnt mind whether you are the daughter of a pastor, or an usher, or you got cash in your pocket. Whether at home or in a podium. *STAGE FRIGHT DOESN’T CARE. ALL IT CARES ABOUT IS TO DISGRACE YOU AT EVERY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY IT HAS.*
Stage fright is very common among singers, keyboardists, pianists, teachers and a lot of others. It affects all profession that has to do with facing crowds or becoming the spot light.
Stage fright is a situation whereby one is afraid to sing, play, stand, talk or seat in front of a little or large audience or simply defined, it’s the refusal to be the spot light in any place and at any time.

The signs that follow stage fright are:
*1.* Loud and fast heart beat while singing or talking before an audience.
*2.* Visible vibration/tension in the body while standing, singing, acting or playing an instrument before an audience.
*3.* Stammering or stuttering voice while singing, acting, playing an instrument, standing or talking before an audience.
 Have you once noticed that after practicing a piece in your closet perfectly for hours you will go out there and discover you can’t even play or sing it again, sometimes your fingers start shaking on it’s own or sometimes you will just completely forget the lines.

HOW TO CONQUER STAGE FRIGHT*

1.* The best way to overcome your fears is to learn to face your fears. Stop avoiding crowds rather start looking for such opportunities.

2.* Believe in yourself. If you continue to feel you are incapable because you are not the best then you might never grow out of stage fright. You don’t need to be the best singer, or instrumentalist, all you need do is believe in yourself.

3.* Train yourself into perfection. In order to be confident enough to face crowds you need to train yourself to the point where you can look at yourself and say, ”I can really sing”, ”I have a good voice”, ”I can really play this drums”, ” now I can play this keyboard”. Untill you are good enough in your own eyes you will never be confident enough to face even that small crowd.

4.* Stop trying to be a perfectionist. You need to know that there’s nothing wrong in making mistakes. You need to also be able to accept the possibility of you making mistakes. Perfect people are not those that have never failed but those that refuse to let their failures make them failures by not stoping right where they failed.

5.* Stop seeing your audience as your enemies who are looking out for your mistakes but smile and relate with them looking into their eyes as friends and family members.

6.* Don’t try to hide your physical faults, rather accept your faults. And don’t focus now on what people think about it, but focus rather on what God says about it.

7.* Focus on your strength and abilities, not on your weaknesses. In order words, when ever you want to face the crowd try not to do what you are not good at, but rather on what you are good at.

*8.* Stop imagining yourself failing rather start to imagine yourself making impact into the lives of your audience.
Not about the mistakes you made, but about how the little part you got transformed and blessed someone out there in the audience. This should be our focus.

9.* Stop scaring yourself with thoughts of what might go wrong rather think about things that are re-assuring, about how some one would be blessed as a result of your ministration.

10.* Never depend on drugs to help reduce tension rather learn to create a communicating relationship with your audience first of all by laughing and playing with ur audience like you would do to your friends before telling them something.

11.* Always spend lots of time to prepare very well before climbing the stage.

12.* Visualize your success and if you are born again, you should be confident in the fact that you have God dwelling in you. Knowing that it’s not by power nor by might but by His spirit.

ONE LOVELY BLOG AWARD

Hey guys, how you all doing? I hope September is treating you well. For me, it has been so far,so good but it can be better.

I want to start up by apologizing for my long absence, long time, no see, right? I have been having a few issues at home but thank God things are falling into pleasant places. Thanks a lot guys, for sticking around.

I have been nominated for this blogger award and I feel really good about it. I started this blog on the last week of June this year, so far I’m really happy with the progress I’m making. Though I challenging myself to post more regularly. Right now, I do one or two blog post every week. So I’m challenging to making it at least three post in a week.

I own the honour of this award to Elizabeth @ notsoperfectstudent nominated for the ONE LOVELY BLOG AWARD. I’m really thankful and it feels really good. So please go check out Elizabeth’s blog, she’s an amazing blogger and has exactly what you need as a student.,

RULES

The rules of the One Lovely Blog Award are simple:

1. Thank the person who nominated you
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2. Share 7 facts about yourself
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3. Nominate 15 bloggers and inform them.

7 RANDOM FACTS ABOUT ME

1. I don’t like running.

2. I do not like gossips and I try as possible not to gossip about people.

3. I hate when someone lies to my face.

4. I haven’t really travelled before.

5. When I was younger, I always wanted a dragon that I could fly on and have the ability to control water and ice. Then my dragon and I would be able to communicate telepathically. Funny! It was a childhood fantasy. I had just watch this cartoon, I can’t remember the name.

6. I just re watched the Avatar:legend of Aang series and it was totally hilarious. Re watching the series was one of the best decision I made this month.
7. I’m not much of a talker but when I’m angry and you get me to talk, there’s is no stopping me. Oh, and when you get me to talk about books

So I nominate

wonderful treasures

the million dollar girl blog

An infinite book world

The maximo blog

Claire Yang writes

The shining gem

Master of spice and everything nice

With all my love,

Nessa

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Thanks to mum and Vincent for always sharing their mobile data.

Super wife and mummy

life suddenly feels lighter.

” I firmly believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid runway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are – particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (I’m not a big one for paying compliments…), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter. “

Jonathan Carroll.

Liebster Blogger Award. #3

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No matter how many times, it always feel really nice when someone notices your blog.

I wanted to say a big thank you to Keda @ Kedawithani for the nomination. She’s an amazing writer and her blog is one of kind, do check it out.

For the rules and more of the liebster blogger award, click here

Random facts about myself.

1. I’m aware that I can be difficult.

2. I don’t really like sugary food/snacks.

3. According to popular opinion, I’m weird but I don’t care, at all.

4. I over think, even to make the tiniest of  decisions, like what to wear.

5. Most times, I prefer reading a good book than talking to people and socializing.

6. I always do my best to be top in class, no swimming in average for me.

7. I really don’t have a lot of interest in watching movies unless it’s really really good. So I’m open to suggestions of mind-blowing and thrilling movies/ series. And don’t mention the Game of Thrones. Though I would want to know when the season 8, is starting.

8. I love fashion though I’m terrible at it.

9. I lose interest in things easily.

10. I don’t play games, I used too, a lot but I’ve totally lost all interest.

 Keda’s questions.
My answers

1. What’s the most exciting you did this week?

I doubt I did any exciting this week, since I was home by myself through this week.

2. What do you want to be when you grow up?

A lot of things and it all round up to one thing, I want to be on Tv. I want to make money. Probably  as a tv/radio personality. Or probably being interviewed for my book. Maybe as an actress. I would also like to work in publishing.

3. What’s the worst lie you have ever told?

I can’t remember.

4. What came first, the chicken or the egg?

5. Is the glass half full or empty?

I left those last two questions unanswered  because I have to idea how to answer them.

My Questions:

1. What place would you like to visit at least once in your life and why?

2. When was the last time you felt like you wanted to disappear?

3. If you could have dinner with three persons, living or dead, who would they be.

4.  What’s your current favourite movie?

5. How do you manage your work/studies and blogging time?

6. What book would you never get tired of reading?

7. To you, what’s the closest thing to real magic to you?

8. What’s that thing you won’t ever give up on?

For this award, I am nominating bloggers who just joined  my community and some I haven’t. I really appreciate you guys. Though I’m not so familiar with some, but I’ve read a few of their posts and they are real good.
Here it goes:

The writing wave

Kip walkin

asimple view

Her echoed thoughts

Kristin @kristinkravesbooks

Inner revelations

Ovayshea

City of novels

Looking forward to your answers.

Have a lovely week.